What Are You Not Saying?

If you’ve ever been on a client call with me, you’ll know that I light a candle, burn something and pull an oracle card before each call. While it’s not something I talk about super openly on the internet, my connection with Spirit is a huge part of my life.

It impacts everything I do in my work, I have practices that have a dedicated place in my life and ... I don’t ever really bring it up in public. Partially because it doesn’t come up naturally. And partially because a part of me fears that if I do, the internet will suddenly see me as some flakey, 90s stereotype of a “woo woo” woman.

So why am I sharing it now?

Because someone in my family recently shared an integral part of themselves with me that they’d been hiding for quite some time. The whole experience was a very bittersweet mixture of joy at getting to know them in this way, and sadness at the missed opportunities for closeness in the past years.

 And it got me thinking about what a gift it is to know someone fully, in all their parts, even the ones they might think are too “weird”.

There’s that meme that goes around about the mortifying experience of being known that you’re probably familiar with.

But have you seen the riff on it that says, “Thank you for experiencing the mortifying ordeal of being known that I may have the euphoric experience of knowing you”?

That’s what I wish for all of us –– to know and be known.

Are there integral parts of you that you don’t share? If so, why might that be?

You certainly don’t have to. And there may be some very good reasons not to. But can you share them quietly, even with yourself? 

That’s a perfectly good, necessary place to start.

So my question for you this month is, what might you acknowledge and honor in yourself that you maybe haven’t before?

If it feels right, maybe share that with those you're closest to, so they can know you more. If that’s not right for now, that’s fine too. Remember, the body needs small steps.

And, on the off-chance that you do want to share with somebody, but don’t have anyone you feel comfortable sharing with, I’m here for you. Find out more about what that could look like here.